Men today are not the men of yesterday. That’s not news; metrosexuals this and man bags that…that’s what we see trending today on all forums. So why should it be an issue? Why should today’s man be made to pay for what he has not knowingly sought? Because we have not sought this knowingly. It has been society, big, bad society that’s turned us into what the world is now calling wusses.
We cry. We floss. We carry make-up and worry what our suits will be like when we step into the clean confines of Airtel Uganda after doing three minutes on a bodaboda.
Most off all, we care.
We care about what happens to the women of the world. We don’t just care about the women in our lives, the sisters we grew up tussling it out in the grass with or the moms we would surprise from behind in the kitchen while they where cooking and we’d been out in the field involved in a mean game of footie.
We care about all the women in the world. So much so that we cry when we see a scene in the movies where a woman is being mistreated. When J-Lo kicked that cretin’s ass in that J-Lo movie that bombed, we were there cheering along with the women in the audience. We felt good that an unfair man had gotten his.
But that’s not what the world, double-faced as it is, told us in the beginning men should act like. Sometimes, we were told men are strong and crass and generally rough on the edges. Other times we were told men should represent strong security for their women folk.
And on other occasions, we were told the super-male was the one who fought for women’s rights and backed down when his woman cut wires.
So we backed down. A lot. We learned to love, to find the sensitive side of us that would appeal to the world. We bought flowers and remembered the birthdays and saved the weekend to play happy families and ‘liked’ the feminism causes.
And now we are called wusses.